One's ready, the other SO not ready!

[slapvan]

I am so unsure if what I'm doing is right for us.....my eldest twin, Breece, is soooo ready to finish potty training. I think if I gave him that extra boost for a few days we'd be done. He will sit on the potty anytime it is suggested and he will sit ther of his own free will until he goes-either #1 or #2. I never DIScourage him---but here is my problem--I don't ENcourage him often either. My reason is beacuse Braden, the younger twin, has absolutely, positively no intereset what-so-ever in sitting on the potty, never mind GOING in the potty!! Therefore, wheneverI work on it with Breece, Brady notices,strips himself naked every time even though he won't even TRY to sit on the potty for more than 5 seconds, ends up running around our old drafty house naked and cold then when he has the urge to tinkle will find a corner cubby hole and pee there...AARRGGH! If I don't bring up sitting on the potty to Breece then Braden doesn't strip naked and my home is a tad more peaceful during that time. Am I making sense?? I am just wondering if me not pushing Breece right now when he shows all signs of being ready it will harm the potty thing in the end? A friend said maybe if Braden sees Breec trained he might follow in his footsteps all the sooner but I know my boys and Braden is far from ready to even start the process. He claps with us from Breece when he uses the potty and sees Breece emptying his potty in the toilet, flushing and washing his hands...he wants to do those things too and I have explained to him he CAN do those things when he uses his potty! I am sure I am one of many, many, many mommies who wish they automatically trained themselves overnight! :nod: I am now thinking that warmer weather is just around the corner and I vow to buy NO MORE DIAPERS by the end of the summer.....my big goal....wish me luck!!!!

[Ma Kettle]

I don't normally talk potty training but... sounds like you are doing just fine just as you are. The one is already on his way so I'd just continue the way you are and let him take the lead. And enforce the 'diapers are necessary if you aren't on the potty' rule.

He'll follow when he's ready. Don't hold one back to accomodate another. If the easy potty trainer is completely potty trained you'll have more time to devote to the more difficult one when it's time.

[rockin_grandma]

He'll follow when he's ready. Don't hold one back to accomodate another. If the easy potty trainer is completely potty trained you'll have more time to devote to the more difficult one when it's time.

:dito:
One of our girls was completely potty trained 3 months before the other. Now they both are wearing panties!! :yippee:

[Steph211]

My son trained a full 6 months before his sister. I just decided to treat them as individuals and them when each of them was ready. I sympathize with you though as you have one twin running around and peeing in corners! Yikes! I agree with the previous poster who said you have to stress the diapers on at all times unless you're using the potty. It could also be an attention thing. The one who is not ready might see all the attention the other one gets and so his reaction is to run around naked and pee where he shouldn't. I've never really understood why kids seek negative attention, but they often do.

Hang in there! Pretty soon on of your sons will be trained and will need less of your attention when he uses the potty and the other one will come along eventually.

Good luck!

[infertilenomore]

My twin boys are doing the same thing right now. I am concentrating my efforts on the one who is interested in going potty, but giving the other the chance when he shows interest. The one who is going potty gets to wear underwear, use special wipes, and has a special potty that he picked out. I have explained mutiple times to the one who has no interest that when he is ready, I will do the same for him. Sometimes he wants to wear underwear and I let him, knowing that I will have to clean him up when he goes. But I don't want to discourage his interest. My pediatrician says to just wait. He'll get the desire eventually.