mom in high demand

[jeanie]

my kids are so demanding its constant. Are yours? I feel so in demand all the time I cant relax at all. how about you. all day they constantly ask questions or want something i realize they are to young to do anything else but Im just so mentally exhausted all the time how about you..

[mymarvins]

Yes :sigh:

[Steph211]

Yes, yes, yes! There are days I just have to clamp my hands over my mouth before I scream, "Please shut up and leave me alone!!!!!" I have tried setting the kitchen timer for 10 minutes though and explained that until they hear the beep Mommy is "on break" and they have to leave me alone. :snicker:

It makes me insane but I keep trying to remember that one day they won't want to talk to me and ask me things and hang out. I guess we have to enjoy it while we can.

[Nursechic]

Yes, mine are that way too. To make it worse, my daughter absolutely CANNOT have anything done by Daddy. I have to do it all. :rolleyes:

My two want me to play with them constantly. They are so fun to be around, if only things like laundry, cooking and chores didn't have to get done. :snicker:

[Rudy]

Unfortunately I think that is normal.

[LongIslandLookers]

Yep we are in the same boat! It is quit frustrating!

[helene1108]

Mine are like that too. And unfortunately mine seem to have this sense of entitlement...they WANT everything they see and cry if they don't get it. It's nerve-wracking and I'm praying it's just a temporary stage!

[Mom of 5]

Yes, mine are like this, too. it IS hard, and some days, I just don't feel like doing it! :sigh:

[meems1965]

Jeanie we have talked about this before. i feel the same way, In fact if it wasnt for this board, i would think i am the only one. I dont have super close friends where I live that I can talk to , so everyone here thinks I am this Supermom. Luckily i have a best friend that I talk to on the phone once a week.

Most of my days, I seriously dont think I can make it through. That is truly how I feel . I dont know if it is normal for a mom of 4 year old twins and a 2 year old to feel this way. I keep thinking that everyone else in my situation cannot possibly feel the way I do because who would have kids if this is what it is like?

that sounds awful to say but I really truly do feel like I am going slowly crazy every day. My husband travels a lot and all i do is cart them to school or activities. I dont do playdates because with the other stuff, i am so tired plus my little one needs a nap so I cant do playdates in the afternoon. so i have very little interaction w other adults/moms

i love my kids so much and all i want to do is be a good mom. that is all i want. And I feel like I fail every day.

I know this is not the answer you wanted. A more positive uplifting message would be better.

I am hoping that it is the stage that they are... their ages... and that things will change.

Your kids are close in age to mine and we are the same age so i think we really experience the same types of things. I guess that brings some comfort. But I cant offer you any advice whatsoever because I have none!!

[Larkynsmommy]

Yes, I never have down time unless it is after everyone is in bed, even then there is so much to do!!!! But sometimes, I just plop down on the couch anyways. I go to work to take a break from being a mom!!!

[Ma Kettle]

I am always in 'high demand'. It is extremely rare for me to have ANY time that I am not 'on call'.

It's draining. It really is and dh doesn't understand the toll it takes. OR that he's PART of it. He goes to work 13 hours a day and sleeps 8 (UNDISTURBED) hours. That leaves just 3 hours and during THAT time he eats hot meals with both hands (while I feed babies), chats on the phone (upstairs where it's quiet), takes a shower (with the door locked and noone banging on it), and washes dishes (by himself).

Sure he worked 13 hours. But if he had 7-12 co-workers hanging on him, nagging him, and following him into the bathroom there's a SERIOUS problem!

I live on 3-4 hours sleep a night with at least one kid kicking me in the ribs by morning, haven't taken a bath or used the toilet without an audience in years, and forget sitting down without someone on my lap and chattering in my ear!

Even on his days off when I go soak in the bath 'undisturbed' for an hour I hear the kids going nuts and dh getting frustrated in the background. And then HE keeps coming in and wanting to chat bringing the baby with him, who of course wants in too. :rolleyes: He doesn't seem to understand that I need a break with TOTAL lack of demand. When I'm so drained from being 'on call' I NEED just a short time with NO demands on me and something as small as him wanting to chat just shatters that. Hearing complaints about work issues is even MORE demanding than listening to a child chatter about the masterpiece they painted that morning because it requires appropriate responses beyond 'it's beautiful sweetie, can you do one with an animal?'

I'd say I get my 'total non-dependence' time after the kids are in bed... but even then dh calls me from work frequently 'just to say hi'. If I don't answer the phone he gets worried and will take time off work to come home and check on me :rolleyes:

:sigh: Some day I'll be old and wishing my grandkids would visit more often to alleviate the boredom. OH how I long for those days! :lol:

[jeanie]

Im bowing down to ma kettle Im zipping my lips closed she gets the award..Ive got three she got lots more love in her house!!

[stephanienoreen]

I have to say that I am sooo glad I came to the three-five post. I was starting to feel like I was the only one feeling like that. So often i feel like yelling "just leave me alone for five minutes" I feel like and am going crazy.. from the constant battle of fighting kids, whinning kids....oh yea and the terror they rain on your house. My house is never clean, and I do shovel it out daily..but that doesnt ever show...and you cant forget laudry..is that ever done?? It is such a relief to hear you all feel the same. I cant vent to friends because they all say the same thing...how hard can it really be??
Its not always hard just constant.. oh yea did i mention that i still work full time.. the day is never done. Maybe we should start a club... moms of twins who are slowly going nuts..lol just kidding maybe

[Mommy2EandK]

Yup mine too. No matter how much we play or how many places we go....it's just never enough. Hopefully this stage doesn't last too much longer!

[infertilenomore]

I can completely relate to how you feel. I am so glad I found this board because I think that moms of multiples go through something moms who don't have multiples can't relate to. One of my bridesmaids has 3 boys who are 2 years apart and she is constantly comparing herself to me but it's completely different having a toddler (or in my case 2) and a newborn than having 2 toddlers or 2 newborns. You get stretched to the max physically, emotionally, mentally. But at the same time I find more fulfillment in my exhaustion than most moms I know. :proud:

[Mammabear07]

I understand that feeling. I live for night time, after the kids go to bed, that is my time! I stay up late doing nothing zoning out in front of the T.V. or on the computer just trying to unwind from the day. DH is a truck driver & is only home on weekends. When he gets home I have made it a point to make them go to Dad with all their millions of "Can we" "I want" "I'm hungry!" etc... that I usually deal with all day long every day. I try not to worry if my house is the cleanest or if everything is "perfect" I think I might explode if I had to deal with one more thing some days.

[Mom of 5]

Do you ever have nights when everyone is finally in bed after a long day, and then you don't feel like doing any of the things you looked forward to doing? Not just from being too tired, but just because it isn't that much fun to be alone or watch some show after all. :disappointed:

It is very hard to get any alone time here anymore. If DH goes to bed early, my teenager is around. :stress: