older siblings?

[kbanana]

I'm new to the message board. I just found out that we're having twins yesterday and I think we're still in shock. I have a 3 year old son, Milo, and I just can't wrap my brain around the effect this will have on him. He is my special little man and I want him to always feel special. Can't stop crying. We are excited but this is so strange! Any advice? - Kerry (twin boys due in August 2005)

[Momslovesherboys]

Someone once said, 'Think of all you are GIVING to Milo, you are not taking anything away'. His life will be richer b/c he has siblings.

I would just play up what a good big older brother he is when people start ooing and ahhing over the twins...

Good luck

[isurvived]

I don't know any moms who didn't have ambivalent feelings when they found out about twin pregnancies. It will feel better. Best wishes.

[momoffive]

i felt the same way when I was pregnant with my daughter, of course my son was only 9 months old at the time, but I thought that it would be so hard on him. Was I wrong!!! They are great friends! I think the way you feel is pretty normal, proubably most mom's feel this way!

[cmhroy]

I felt the exact same way when we found out we we're having twins. I was so excited but also a little sad that it would be the last time that my son would be the complete center of attention. Someone posted earlier to think of what you are giving your son by giving him two siblings and I agree. Now I'm just concerned that once the girls arrive that people will ignore my son to ooh and aah over the babies so I have already made a rule that I've shared with all the family. When anyone comes into this house they MUST acknowledge my son first or no babies.

Christina

[pirdylandwyer]

We are throwing our daughter a big sister party a few weeks after the boys are home. This allows people to come and meet the boys, but the party will be centered around dd and her becoming a big sister so that she feels the pride of her new role in our family. She is going to greet everyone at the door and she will introduce her baby brothers.

[blaise_morgan77]

I felt the same way when I found out I was pregnant with my twins. My older daughter Ely is three years older than the twins and I was worried how that would affect her, but after a jealous week, she was fine! she wanted to help with the babies and take care of them.... she's deliberatly independent and makes a fuss every time we eve think of giving her and Haley similar things but we're getting through it.... don't think about what you're taking from him, cuz really, you're not taking anything from him, you're giving him siblings and that is something an only child usually wants... just make sure to still pay attentiom to the little guy and everything will be fine! :)