Just found out I am having twins!

[misekelly]

Hello! I am 20 weeks along and just found out I am having girl/boy twins due in March! I have a 3 1/2 yr old and a 18 mo both boys! I am so shocked and overwhelmed and my emotions are everywhere!
Twins do run in the family but both my grandmother and mom miscarried twins so I never thought I would even have them let alone get this far!
My husband and I are basically walking around in a daze and the only thing we can think of is the financial part! We are definately not prepared for this! Our car which is midsize was going to be tight with another baby but with twins it has now turned into a compact car! and our finances dont have any room for a minivan!
No one understands how we are feeling!!! THey are so excited for us and although we are happy we are also a bit apprehensive! We both feel bad for not being overly excited.
Has anyone else felt this way??? I need some support and understanding from others who are in the same boat! None of my friends have twins and we are the first couple in our church to ever have twins!

THanks for letting me vent a little! Its nice to find a place for support!

[mama2jared+2]

Congratulations on your twins! I think that almost all of us felt the same way when we found out that 2 were on the way. My husband walked around for a week asking me if I was kidding about the twins. It is a lot to comprehend and plan for and most people that don't have twins don't understand the complexities of adding another family member to the budget, figuring out what you are going to need two etc. I will tell you that after a while the shock will wear off, the excitement will build and everthing will seem to fall into place.
Good Luck with your pregnancy!

[Twins babies 2004]

Misekelly,
My DH and I felt the same way as you and your DH do after finding out about having twins, and I know others are out there that feel this way. We are right now discussing how we are going to fit everyone in the current cars we have now. Between me, my DH, and the twins there is enough room, but when you add the stroller and possibly anything else you need to take with you there is no room left over. So we are contemplating right now getting either a SUV or a minivan, it all depends on what we can afford.
And I can definetly understand about the financial situation. Right now my doctor hasn't let me work since I was 20 weeks, and yesterday I turned 29 weeks. So that has been 9 weeks without a paycheck and now my husbands job is in jeopardy, so we are definetly trying to figure out what we are gonna do next.
Don't feel bad about not being too overly excited yet. It took my DH and I a while to get really excited about having two.
Good Luck!!!

[Laurie13]

Welcome to the boards and enjoy. You have time to prepare and things really do work out. We were a bit panicked too at first and being on bedrest gave me all too much time to worry about things but in the end it has been fine and the boys are such a joy. You will be amazed at how much people will help and give gifts. I didn't think we could possibly afford two at once but it's worked. Best wishes for a happy and healthy rest of your pregnancies! You have come to the right place if you need support and advice.

[mom-identboys02]

does your state have a wic program? i don't know too much about it. i think they just give you money to buy diapers and formula and other foods. this may help a little.

[genuine]

Congratulations! I know you are overwhelmed. We were and our twins were are first and only so far. With 2 other children, I can only imagine the panic that must be setting in, lol. However, you have plenty of experience, so taking care of the children will not be a problem. Also, you have everything you need for the babies leftover from the other kids, except girl clothes which friends and family will probably hand down to you. If not, consignment shops have great bargains on gently used clothing.

Regarding the car - you will need a minivan or an SUV with third row seating. No way around that unfortunately.That will by far be your biggest expense. Many, many dealers are having major year end sales with major incentives. You can lease or buy with little to no money down and low monthly payments. You may want to sell or trade in your cars and get the new vehicle now. Also, check into the used car market. Dealers have certified used cars that come with great warranties. Maybe a friend, or someone from your church group has a reliable used vehicle. Put out some feelers.

Everything will work out. Have faith in that and keep us posted on your pregnancy. Best of luck to you!!!

Jennifer

[MARGARITAMAMA]

Hello, Welcome and CONGRATULATIONS!:p

[BabeABabeB]

Congrats!
I know how you are feeling too. I found out I was having twins at 20 weeks . My dh and I walked around in a daze for quite some time. It wore off, and now I am getting close to my due date and the panick is coming back. It's a good panick though.
Financially we are not set up either. We had to borrow money from a friend and my in laws, (which I never imagined ever doing) I also claimed bankruptcy, something I had to do and now I can answer the phone without being harassed.
I had to get rid of my new car, b/c it would not fit my family. We went back 23 years in time and bought a big van that seats 7.
I have a 2.5 year old as well.
Trust me, things have a way of working themselves out. I can't beleive that is coming out of my mouth, I am usually such a worry wart about everything. I think I realized that was putting a negative outlook on life for me.
I am just anticipating birth now, and hoping labor will be quick!

[SamBen]

My DH and I know exactly how you feel. We had everything planned out - for 1 baby. Then we found out at our 10 week appt that there were 2! We were shocked for about a week. Then reality hit. I cried for about half of my pregnancy. I was worried about day care, finances, all that stuff. We had our daycare settled and then one day she called and said she couldn't do it. I told DH that was a sign from God that I am supposed to stay home. Good thing we took that road as the boys were born at 28 weeks and there was no way I was going to take my tiny babies out in the winter to be around other kids. I did a lot of research and we are now on the WIC program which provides formula as babies and then milk, cheese, eggs, peanut butter, juice, and cereal for toddlers. The boys also qualified for Medical Assistance which pays for any medical bills that our insurance doesn't. Our car was tight too and after some discussion decided to look for a used minivan - which came up about a month later. I have to say, God works in mysterious ways. If you asked me 2 years ago if we would make it I would have said no - but now I know it can be done. Do some searching into programs - there is help out there. But most of all have faith - God only gives you what you can handle. Best of Luck and I'll be thinking of you.

[homebirthedtwins]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

We found out at 22 weeks. We had a 4 yo girl and an 18 mo boy when they were born. We had just moved to a new state so that my husband could begin grad school. So, no support system, tight finances and a small 2 bedroom apartment.

Y'all have time to process your emotions and get excited about the twins. We were excited from day one but most women with twins I know were worried or unhappy about the news at first.

Hang in there. It is so wonderfully worth having twins!!!!!!!!

[Newyearsmom]

Misekelly,
I,too, just found out at my 20 week u/s that we had a stowaway!!I am still in shock, but pretty excited as well. I have a 4 year old girl and the doc thinks the twins are g/g/likely Identical (not sure how he figures that). We are trying to figure out if I will continue work etc.
Definately contact your local hospital to find out about programs you may be eligible for. Where do you live?

[chauvina]

Gosh there are a lot of us just finding out at about 20 weeks. We just found out last week (21 weeks). We are still in shock. Everytime I tell someone I have to sit down. We are happy just doubly worried that they'll be okay. No probs yet. Hope it stays that way. Luckily we have a station wagon (and these will be our first babies). The money situation is super scary though. My husband is in grad school and I work at the University. If I have to stop working too early money will be a big issue. I only get 12 weeks off so I'm going to try to work up until the last moment. I'm not sure how realistic this is but I'm going to try. We have had tons of offers for baby gear and help but I'm concerned it still won't be enough. I don't want to have to put them in daycare. I guess we have several of months to work everything out. I wish you luck and keep us informed on how you're doing.
addie

[havntwo]

As everyone else has said...it will work out! I found out I was having twins when I was 7 weeks. We were completely shocked, I didn't know they ran in our family. I am a stay at home mom to my 5 year old son, so twins kinda put us back a little. But you will get excited, so will your husband. I just traded in my 2001 4runner for a minivan....... If I can do it you can too!