Just found out I am having TWINS!!!

[doublemom]

My husband and I have a 1 1/2 year old and found out last night that we are now expecting TWINS...... Needless to say since twins do not run in our family, as far as we know, that we are still currently in shock. We are very early in our pregnancy but I am one that needs to be preparred. Advice PLEASE!!!!!!

[twins.n.done]

well I have known for 9wks now that I am having twins. I have no twins in my family either, and this will be babies 3 and 4 for us! I am just starting to get over the shock, but still scared silly! There are tons of online support groups, message boards for twins and those expecting twins. There are also twin or multiple associations around. FInd out if there is one in your area.

big (((HUGS))) to you.

the shock and fear do go away after a while. but also be prepared for double pregnancy symptoms. I am 14wks today and already showing. hehe....

sorry I have no other advice, as I am not much further along than you! but it does get easier to deal with.

hugs again, and good luck!!

Jay EDD twins 3/19/04

[froggy]

REST! that's the best advice I have. I am only 12 weeks today but we found out when we were 5 1/2 weeks so it's had time to settle in. We were in shock in the begining too but it's finally starting to feel real. These will be children # 3 and #4 for us too so life will be changing a great deal in our house.

Welcome to the board!

[EAMomto3]

doublemom - My son was 16 mos when my husband and I found out we were having twins. Same as you, there were no twins in my family and we were very shocked when we found out at 17 weeks. I had no morning sickness or anything and just assumed that since I already had a baby was why I was showing earlier.

Best advice I can give is stay calm! I walked around in a fog for a good couple of weeks, even dialed 911 by accident and blamed it on my son! I did a lot of reading about twins and twin pregnancy and joined the multiples association where I live.

(I read everything I could get my hands on about twin pregnancy and scared myself silly thinking that I would never carry them to term. My husband finally had to sit me down and tell me that I was becoming obsessed with the whole twin thing. He was right and after that I decided to enjoy my twin pregnancy.)

My two biggest concerns were being able to carry to term and how my son would adjust.

Some of the things my husband and I did was to ensure that my son adapted well was to keep him involved. We constantly told him about the two babies in mommy's tummy and every night before he went up to bed he gave my stomach two kisses. We put a "big boy" bed in his room before the babies arrived and as soon as he saw it he didn't want any part of his crib. The first night he slept in his bed he stayed in it!!

Near the end of my pregnancy I was unable to keep up with my toddler so my husband had to take over his baths and any lifting.

During those first few weeks and months - get help. We had great friends and family who would take our toddler for a couple of hours and both grandmothers were a great help.

Life will be busy but I wouldn't have it any other way. One crying baby awaits...............

Cheers.

[Momma to 3 Wonderful Boys]

Welcome and congratulations!! :D I got pg with the twins the day after our first son turned one! :eek: Totally unexpected, we were planning to try for our second child when he turned two, which is next month. LOL. He is a wonderful big brother and loves the babies so much. We bought a book called "I'm a Big Brother" and read it to him a ton. Every time we saw a baby, we would point them out to him. He has adjusted so well, he really acts like it's just been his way of life forever. He is awesome, we're so blessed! I was on bedrest for nine weeks too and we didn't have any help, so it was just me and him at home for 8 hours a day, which gave us a lot of bonding time and time to read a lot and talk about the babies coming. You will do great!! Oh, and I highly recommend the book "What to Expect When Expecting Twins, Triplets or Quads" by Dr. Barbara Luke.

[BabeABabeB]

Congrats! Excellent news.
Like you, twins do not run in either of our family's and we didn't take any fertility drugs. A big shock. It has worn off, well at least until the babies arrive. I found out when my son was almost 2 years.
I recommend that book by Dr.Barbra Luke and any other material you can get your hands on. Check within your community to see if they offer any support groups of multiples.
Best Wishes!
Katrina

[Laurie13]

Congratulations! You will find great advice here on almost every topic! Have fun and enjoy and do take good care of yourself!

[jessicaNJ]

Congratulations ... doublemom! I am 16 weeks on 9/22 and am so excited about having twins. It took me about 2-3 weeks to get over the initial shock. My husband and I kept looking at each otherand laughing b/c it just seemed so overwhelming at first. We consider ourselves big kids and now we are going to have two kids at the same time. Although I went through IVF treatments and knew there was a significant chance of twins I still never thought it would "happen to us."

I would suggest the following...

Buy the book by Barbara Luke as recommended in another thread. I have really enjoyed reading it. I think it gives you realistic advice of how to handle a twin pregnancy.

If possible start a prenatal yoga class (if it's OK with your doctor) I have been a avid yoga student fior years and I think that's one reason why I feel so good (so far!) I know you have already been pregnant, but the extra weright of 2 can reek havoc on your body.

Just my 2 cents... good luck.

[mommyplus2]

the initial shock of finding out that you are having twins is just WOW! But eventually, will you begin to wonder what they will look like, are the identical or fraternal..and over time, you'll bond with them in a way that even words can't describe. I found out at 10 weeks that I was having twins. It runs in my family, but as others have said..I didn't think it could happen to me. I am truly blessed everyday. I'm now 32 weeks and 4 days along. It's been a bumpy ride, but I wouldn't take it back for anything.

I also live in southern NJ, Atlantic County to be exact. Would love to get to you those of you from this great ol' state! Take care and congrats!



Rachael

Alexander Joseph & Paige April~ EDD** 11-12-03 (40 weeks)

[mbh]

Congratulations!! I just had b/g twins. When we found out, my husband didn't talk for 2 days. They took my babies by C-section at 37 weeds. They convinced me that Sophia was 5 lbs. 8 oz. and Benjamin was 4 lbs. 3 oz. and she was taking all of his nutrients. I even asked how that could be as they had their won placentas. Anyway, they convinced me. Sophia was 5 lbs. 3 oz. and Benjamin was 4 lbs. 15 1/2 oz.

The way I did it was to drink a lot of water, eat mainly healthy food and walk 3 miles almost every day. The walk started being a source of amusment for me and my husband as it took longer and longer. But they were healthy babies that we took home from the hospital with me.

[brooklynmum]

hi doublemom,
I also found out about my twins when my daughter was only 18 months. We were more than shocked- no twins in the family. It took a looooong time to get over the shock- still working on it actually. I'm now 25 wks. I couldn't think about anything except how this whole thing would impact my daughter, but she's already starting to adjust. Just take it one day at a time.

I have very little energy now and can't really lift her, but she's ok with it most of the time. As soon as we found out I was pregnant, I started lifting and carrying her much less so that she would adjust and now she knows that I can't hold her (unless sitting). Right from the beginning, we started telling her what was going to happen (in very simple terms) and it's gotten her very excited. We put her in a big bed last week (she's 23 months) and the transition was wonderful. Also, we just bought a nice, sturdy stool so she can climb up to the sink to wash hands and do other things that would require lifting. Stock up on crafty things that you can do inside- low key (like playdough, stickers, crayons, etc).

I think they are capable of handling much more than we realize- just keep talking to your little one and read lots of books and point out babies when you see them. Best of luck to you!!!

[foxfire]

Hey I just joined today and did a post in the main room!

I am 22, husband is 26, we're in the coast guard and have a 2 year old VERY active toddler.

I have a lot of concerns as well about how I will do in later months and trying to take care of my son and things. My son does not sit and do things quietly he's a little ball of fire so I just don't know, not to mention we don't have any family or anything near :(

We just found out at 22 weeks we are having twin girls.

No twins in the family or fertility drugs, we had an ultrasound at 13 weeks and have had a picture of ONE baby on our fridge, we've listened to the heartbeat as well, so needless to say this was quite a shock!!

Welcome and good luck!