Comments people make when they know you're having twins!

[yep_theyre_twins]

Ok so what are some of the comments people make when they find out you're having twins. For example complete strangers! LOL

1. EVERYONE wants to tell me how twins run in their family. Example: "My 2nd aunt's sister-in-law brothers mother has a set of twins"

2. "Ohhhh you're gonna have your hands full. Better you then me"

3. "You have no clue what you're in for"

4. "Well that's why you look so big" *sigh* lol Oh well

5. "Do you know if they are identical or fraternal?"

I just sorta laugh it off but it is sort of funny how I seem to have become a "star" in my small town. Now everywhere I go people want to talk to me especially when I tell them I'm having twins. They're so amazed at it! LOL But it's ok. I'm a pretty easy going person so I don't mind talking to them.

So what have people said to you????

Mia ;)

[sullytwinboys]

Mia,

Just wait until your little angels arrive, you will be truly amazed by the audacity of some people! They'll want to know about fertility, are you disappointed that you got two of the same sex, etc.

But in the end, you will just be amazed at how much attention twins get.

The one thing that truly does bother me is when people try to touch them (strangers that is). Last month we were on vk in Maine and at the Public Market in Portland, which is a very big farmer's market type of place.

I was in the Ladies Room and my dh had the boys in their tandem stroller and this lady comes up to him and starts asking all the typical twin questions:

ARe they twins? (No they were born three months apart LOL)

Are they girls? (NO they are dressed in blue)

Etc.

Then she reaches out to stroke Luke's face, so my dh reaches out to stroker her cheek. She backs away and says," What are you doing!" To which my dh replies, "You were about to touch my son's face, so I thought I'd touch yours."

You may appreciate this story now, but you will definitely appreciate it more later.

Good Luck!

[yep_theyre_twins]

Go DH! LOL That's great. I can see where you're coming from though. I've been fortunate that most people ask to touch my belly before just reaching out and doing it.

BTW I read your sig and that is exactly what I'm hoping for a vaginal delivery at 37 weeks. I'm starting to get very uncomfortable and know these two need to stay in there a little longer. I'm shooting for 36 weeks and anything after that is even better!

Mia :)

[sullytwinboys]

Mia,

You are down to the wire! Congrats on making it this far. Its a great feeling to know that if your babies were born now, they would be just fine. A little small, but just fine.

I recently changed my signature line to include the vag delivery at 37 weeks b/c I realized how rare it was and I wanted other pg moms to know that it can happen.

Good luck and I look forward to reading your birth story soon, but not too soon!

[DaddyX2]

When we tell people we are having twins EVERYONE has to tell us about their friend who has twins, or their friends friend who has twins etc etc... I find it amazing that this happens without fail.

[scorby]

What's bugging me right now are the weight/size comments. I've gotten a number of "Wow, you're huge" and "You're due WHEN???". It's as if people don't have any sort of internal sensor telling them to keep their mouths closed and comments to themselves. I've started retorting back, "With twins I'm *supposed* to be this big."


Now mind you, I'm not THAT big for a twin pg. I'm right on track as far as I can tell, but "on track" is definitely bigger than a singleton pg. Even though I know that, I still feel "stung" when someone makes a comment. I'm actually a little self conscious now when we're out in public, always wondering when someone's going to say something. I sort of dread telling people when my due date is, because that usually leads to the comments. I *always* mention that I'm pg with twins, but still the comments come.

ARGH!!!

Stephanie
edd (40wks) 12/12
b/b fraternal twins

[nancyp]

in addition to everyone telling you about twins in their family they all want to know if twins run in your family.

And I got this from a sweet old friend of mine but it really burned me up -- "I hope you have a boy and girl and then your family will be perfect". Luckily I'm pretty happy w/ my 2 "imperfect" boys.

[2moreDevs]

I just had an experience with this Friday. A cashier at a store asked if I was due soon & I had to go into my routine explanation of how I am due in October (I don't even bother telling them the end of October anymore!) but am having twins. The cashier proceeded to look at me like I had three heads & ask if I was sure I wasn't having triplets!!! It amazes me that people forget all manners when a big belly is put in front of them...I just think of the special babies we will be meeting in a few months and it makes it a little easier to deal with the comments.

[MichMom]

I got the same comments from people. Usually I was able to handle them with grace, but sometimes they really bothered me.

Thanks for helping me realize at least one positive about bedrest - not having to deal with intrusive and annoying comments.

[mamabear]

every time I read#1 i almost pee my self laughing. That is just so funny.

[gsmom96]

Hi Mia :)

I've had a couple of people tell me that I'm looking good for having twins (whatever that means, maybe not as big as they would think I should be??? I don't know) but I think it's all starting to come on starting last week. Usually people assume it's one baby of course but when I correct them and say there's 2 then they get all excited about it. So far nothing negative. I probably beat them to it and say that I'm not worried about anything at all, with a shrug and a smile, which is the truth. :)

[waiting4two]

I was at Home Depot the other day and one of the kids working there asked "when are your twins due?" I looked him with total surprise because usually people just assume I am ready to deliver one . Anyway I laughed and said your lucky I am having twins because otherwise I would have to beat you!!(ha ha) He looked at me with surprise and said it was obvious I was carrying two. (Go figure maybe he is a med student working at Home Depot to put himself through school:)

[Steph12]

It's funny, I've had so many people ask "When are you due?" I've got so use the funny looks when I say "October" that now I feel like I have to say, "But they think they'll come in Sept. cause it's twins." But I also get to hear about everyone elses twins in their family.

I met a lady yesterday in an elevator and was talking to her. After we got off, I was walking infront of her. She says to me, "Looking at you from the back, you'd never know you were even pregnant. Except for your waddle." Now I know she was trying to be nice, but come on. Do you really tell someone you don't know, that they are waddling?

[mommyplus2]

This has to be one of the funniest threads EVER!!! I can relate to everything that everyone has said. I hear alot of the time from my family, that I look really good for having twins. That doesn't bother me at all. What really pushes my buttons, is when someone that I don't know makes comments/remarks.

Steph, I was cracking up about that waddling comment. My mom is always telling me that I am waddling. LOL, but never anyone else.

I always hear "Oh when are you due?" And then i tell them Nov. and the response I get is "OMG, how many are in there, cause you look like you are about to pop!"

My friend told me the other day that I look like I am a full term singleton pregnancy...hmmm...now how reassuring is that??


Keep this thread going...it cracks me up!

[BelieveNfate]

I have had a couple stupid comments but the best was when we went shopping for a rocking chair for the nursery. I wanted something larger than the regular glider with the thought that maybe, just maybe, my twins would sit on my lap for a story someday. I also thought it would be easier if I end up nursing them both at the same time. Well the sales person at the furniture store asked what we were looking for and I told her that I was looking for a generously sized rocking chair since we were expecting twins. She then said, "Oh what kind of drugs did you have to take to do that?"

I couldn't believe the nerve! To just come out and ask about fertility drugs... I should have asked her how her last period was or what her husband sperm count is!

[Mom2BoyGirlTwins]

I got a lot of people saying weird stuff when i would tell them I was having a boy and a girl. They would say stuff like I bet you are glad you arent having two boys or two girls. I would have loved either combination.

[yep_theyre_twins]

LOL I'm laughing reading all of the comments you guys have gotten along the way. It's intreasting that although we may be from different parts of the country most of the people that are noticing and asking about our pregnancy's are saying some of the exact same things.

I forgot to add one that I get all the time too:

- Wow you're having twins! Instant family, you won't have to worry about having anymore after these two.

*sigh* Well Dh and I WOULD like more after these two. People these days.

Mia :)

[Marie]

I like the comment:" Just wait until they get older!!" I think my girls are actually getting easier as they get older. They play together and will always have a best friend!! mom of Amelia & Maya 4.27.02

[AmyY]

I get a lot of congratulations and excitement, which I like.

DH tells me that people stare at me in the doctor's office. I don't notice this but since I'm a performer my response is "And the problem with being stared at is?" Apparently other pregnant women are particularly panicked when they see me at the doc's office.

I also hear that I'm going to have a lot of work (this frequently accompanied by sighing and head-shaking, as if the commenter was intending to come to my house and do all the work).

I get a lot of the "oh you're so lucky you'll have your family all done in one shot, I wish I could do that!" type of comments. Since I originally wanted four children before seven years of infertility dashed that dream to pieces, this is a comment I find offensive. Generally the person making the comment has no idea about my history and I DON'T want to elaborate while getting my teeth cleaned at the dentist. I know they don't mean any harm.

I have lots of women friends who insist that I eat a particular food, take a particular herb, drink a particular tea, or do a particular exercise which will make my pregnancy and labor and delivery perfect. 98% of the time these things are absolutely forbidden in twin pregnancy. I generally smile sweetly as they discuss this (often with demonstrations of the exercise they are trying to force on me). When they try to put the food in my mouth or get me to do the exercise with them I tell them it is forbidden in twin pregnancy. They then, as an earlier poster commented, look at me like I have three heads.

The best thing happened one night when I was in the hospital being observed for possible preterm labor. The RN taking care of me handed me a sheet of seven signs of preterm labor and then (at 3:00 a.m. mind you) proceeded to act them out for me in a manner that would have easily gotten an Oscar nomination had she chosen acting over nursing as a profession. I have to say that experience was one of the highlights of my pregnancy so far. Besides being very helpful - I was later able to identify my contractions early and though I'm on bedrest now I'm not having to take any tocolytics - yet.

[mommajen]

I used to get tons of comments also- but like another post mentioned- It gets WORSE after they are born.
We cannot go anywhere without a million people stopping me to look at them: I get:
Are they twins??? (uh no- i just happened tp have 2 babies, that look exactly alike at different times!)

Are they boys??? (you see blue, don't you?)

THey ask thier names, how old are they

and my favorite-
What aisle did you get them in? I get that all the time especially when I go to the grocery store!

It never ends- you will get lots of attention when you go out. I don't even like to go out anymore. It gets bothersome after a while. I usually have 4 kids in had so I don't have time to stop and chit chat with everyone- I want to get in, get what I need and get out!

[2girls2girls]

Since I knew I was huge, I wasn't too shocked or upset at the comments. I just figure people always think since you are that big <i> because you're pregnant </i> that it's okay to comment on your size.

My funniest experience was when I was at a 4th of July picnic at the lake (I wasn't due until October 9th;)) . A woman behind us hollered something along the lines of "Honey I'm a nurse if you need me". I smiled and said "let's really hope I don't need you, I'm not due until October", lol. After a second, I told her I was having twins and she smiled a huge, friendly smile and congratulated me.

[Lindamom23]

I remember when I was pregnant, the head of our office 1500 ees and a woman at that ....asked me if I took fertility treatments!?!?!?! UGH - I didn't but it was none of her business! It is surprising what people ask.

But, ...it is only the beginning! Another mom posting the same thing but it is so true. I went on bedrest at 29 weeks so I was saved from most of the comments until I delivered. But....after the babies were born we experienced the twin attention the first time we took the babies in. They were on apnea monitors, which didn't help....

!) do you have a boy and a girl (both dressed in pink with bright pink blankets)
2) better you than me
3) double trouble
4) I'm seeing double

You get the picture! Most people mean well, and actually do enjoy when other twin parents or twins themselves say something. But, before I had twins, I can never remember saying anything to someone with twins.

[Sheryl-Lynn]

There is one comment I've heard four times since my twin pregnancy began, that I really don't understand. When a woman tells me I ought to just get my tubes tied right after the delivery, I'll already have two babies. This is kind of offensive to me now that I'm pregnant. I just say, why would I do that, what if I want to try for another child in the future? I'm only 24 years old. Why would I intentionally take away my own right and ability to bear children, just because I had two babies in one pregnancy? Its really strange the things people will say.

[sonsop]

i usually hear, "wow, what a man! twins!"

then they ask to feel my muscles.

okay, actually it only happened once and it was my mother.
but still!

[yep_theyre_twins]

Sheryl-Lynn** that is soooooooooooo rude. Noone has said anything like that to me. The closest thing I guess would be "were you on fertility drugs??" But that is really uncalled for, for anyone to say that to you.

SonSop**LMAO you are too funny! My Dh always says "yeah powerful stuff here" *sigh*

Mia

[mommyof5]

These are too funny, and I just love reading them. I had a nurse give me a really rude comment....She asked if I had any other children at home, and when I told her yes, I had three, she asked "What are you doing this for? Is your house big enough?"
Always shocked and surprised at comments like that, I can never come up with something good to say until later, when I wished I would have said "Actually, I'm living at the shelter right now"!
Another nurse said "are you sure you're only 24 weeks?"
Well I would like to see her pregnant with twins and let me evaluate her!!
A lady at a restaurant just told me a few days ago "What a horrible surprise"
Hopefully only 5 more weeks of this nonsense! I just started telling people that my due date was Sept 10 instead of Oct 8, that pretty much turned most of the comments positive, most saying you look great, or wow, are you sure there's 2 in there?
Good luck to you all!
Kathrine
3 children 2,7,9
EDD Oct 8 b/g twins

[NITENDAY]

While I was pregnant with the twins, someone asked me, "Which one of us was going to get "fixed"?".... I found it to be quite charming, NOT! :rolleyes:

[Sheryl-Lynn]

Yeah,

Those who have told me I should get my tubes tied are women who've never been pregnant and are really not ready to be. I kind of feel bad for them.
They really don't understand what a gift it is to bear children.

The other day I was at my parent-in-law's house and had just eaten dinner. I was leaning back in my chair with my shirt up around my belly, trying to get the boys to move for Grandma. My brother-in-law's girlfriend (She's 23) walked out and started acting all wierd. She said, "Oh my God, if thats what I'm going to look like when I'm pregnant, I'm not having kids!!!" My belly is perfectly round, sun tanned and beautiful. I couldn't understand why she said that! I think she's in denial of her womanhood. HEHEHEH! I guess it made her uncomfortable to say the least. If I were her, I would've been kicking myself for saying something like that to a pregnant woman!

I'm now on bed rest and I've got a friend who I might just stop talking to! She called me yesterday and in a sarcastic, menacing voice said, " You like sitting on your as*? You getting fat yet?" Hello!!! Have a little sensitivity PLEASE! She always calls me when she's drunk, (soooooo annoying!) and wants to talk about what our friendship used to be like before, as she puts it, "I got knocked up". I don't need that kind of friend! I think she's jealous that I'm having kids before her, she's ten years older than me. Hey I don't know whats stopping her? (And its not fertility.)

[expecting2]

This is a great thread!! For the most part I got people who were truely trying to be nice but it makes you wonder what some people are thinking when they open their mouths. lol! I guess in all honesty, before I found out I was having twins I would think a lot of the things that people said to me-I just usually didn't say it! I got a lot of comments about waddling (I am about 5'4 and 130lbs). Some of the girls I worked with would often walk toward me and waddle (imitating me)..I found it amusing but that is only cause I knew them. What I found rude, like most of you, is the people you don't know asking you personal questions. The one I got, and still do, is "do twins run in your family?" and "wow! you have your hands full" I like to think that someday some of these people will have the experience of having twins...

BTW- I hate the "are they girls or boys" when they are wearing pink clothes w/ pink and white hats!!!

[CarrieWB]

I read almost everything in this thread, and have heard many of these responses. I'm not due until beginning of December, so I don't get a lot of the 'wow, you're huge!' comments (YET) but one thing I do get that has turned into a major pet peeve.

When someone finds out I'm having twins, first question is 'oh, do you have twins in the family?'. When I say no, it's almost always followed up with 'Did you have fertility treatments?'

My response I SO wish I could give is 'WHAT THE **** BUSINESS IS IT OF YOURS????'

Maybe I'm just touchy, but yes, my husband and I went through invitro, I was unable to produce eggs on my own due to two rounds of treatments for Hodgkin's Disease a few years ago. I still feel that it's extremely rude and presumtuous to ask someone something that personal. In the meantime, I've started telling strangers that yes, we do have twins in the family, just to avoid the follow-up question. Maybe I should just start responding this way:
Rude person 'did you have fertility treatments'?
Me: "Before I answer that, perhaps you'd like to share some of your personal health information with me first" ....And proceed to pull out a checklist!

Anyone else have the same problem? Or are we Canadians just tactless and uncouth, posing as 'friendly and curious'?

[NITENDAY]

I had two girls at the Chiropractor's office, ask me if Alyssa and Ayrianna were sisters. Can you belive that. My reply was, "Yes, twins sisters, they were born on the same day." Just in case they were not aware of how it all works. :rolleyes:

Also, just for the lovely pregnant women's sake, I love pregnant bellies, esepcailly a tummy with two in it. Many men and women both find pregnant women extremely attractive. So don't listen to all those idiots who tell you otherwise.

[mommyof5]

That was very good advice on not listening to idiots! You are right, there are people who find the pregnant woman extremely attractive despite the thin culture we "think" we live in!
Kat

[expecting2]

Yup, your right! My husband says that pregnant women are beautiful!! He says they have a certain "glow" about them.
I got alot of the "your huge" comments but I also felt huge and if I said that then people would say "you have 2 babies in there though!" so I don't think people mean to be rude, they just don't think about how they are wording things.