Will anyone be raising twins without any help?

[twocutes]

Hi,
I posted this on the twins first year board, too. I would like to find out if anyone else will be raising their twins without any help from their families, etc. I am currently 23 weeks preg with twins and my DH and I have no family within an hours drive, and we don't really have anyone else around who can pitch in! Since DH works full time I will be alone raising the twins for the most part and I'm really afraid about what I'm up against!!

It would be great to hear from others in this same situation.

Thanks.

[indecisiveone]

Hello,

Well i just wanted to drop a line to tell ya i feel for ya, we also have no one to really help with our babies either, and i am VERY scared about that, i already have two children ages 6 and 2, plus i know i will be havibg a c-section, so i know i will be in som major pain for awhile after anyway. Its very overwhelming when i think about it at times. But we must go forward! :)

Anyway, i doubt i helped you in anyway, but i do understand what you must be thinking and feeling! :)

Good luck to you and your husband!

Lets keep in touch!

Michelle
Boy/Girl
C-section 8-5-03

[preggy peggy]

hi, i really understand where you are coming from! I am 25 weeks pregnant with g/g's due on the 7 oct, as exciting as this is me and my DH are both from england and live in California so we have no family for a lot of miles and although we have a few friends now, they all work full time, but i am managing to keep a positive attitude about it cos i have no option.

Anyway dont worry too much you'll always have me to moan to and vice versa about all the ups and downs.

take care

helena

[twocutes]

It is so nice to hear from others in this same situation! There was some good advice from my post on the twins first year board, you all might want to also read the replies. The biggest piece of advice is to take it one day at a time!

We should all try to keep in touch for support, we are sure going to need it!!

[meems1965]

I am in the same situation. Our families are 5 hours away so other than coming for a few days at a time, it will be me taking care of the twins since my husband works full time and travels.

Many people have suggested to me that I hire some help but I am hesitant to look into it until I see how things are going? Is anyone else conteplating this?

Does anyone know of any resources, like a national organization that has local chapters of "nanny" type people that you can call if you really get overwhelmed? I thought maybe just check into it to have the peace of mind.

[gsmom96]

I'm almost in my 23rd week of pregnancy with b/g twins. We also do not have family near us. Dh's mom will most likely fly out to "help" for at least a week when the babies are home and my friend from another state is looking forward to driving here to help out too after MIL is gone. As for my family- they can stay where they are- I don't want their help. Too much stress from them!
DH will have 2 wks paternity leave from work when babies come home. I'm hoping we all get to come home at the same time. Other than that I'm not worried about anything. It's just something we gotta do. That's what we're made for :)
Hopefully I can get some help from our son who'll be almost 7 by that time. He's already stated that he's NOT changing diapers though! LOL
I'm looking forward to it :)

[bridget11]

I won't have any help either. I do have a Brother in the area and a couple of older children, but none of them will help. I have been very worried about bedrest or even the hospital stay as i have 6 others at home. There ages range from 2 years to 16 years, although my 16 year old has bi-polar disorder. It can be a scarey time but some way things will work out, they always do.

[Shelly]

Hi there. My boys have been keeping me busy so I haven't checked the board for weeks. Ty and Reegan are now 2 1/2 months old. My husband stayed home for the 1st 7 weeks to help then went back to work fulltime. We also have a 5 year old son so he is back in daycare as I do not have the time to watch or entertain him (he went to d/c prior to these babies as I worked f/t) . So now it is me alone with no help. It is going OK but we don't get out much at all. Even with the warm weather it is too hard to take a walk as one child is usually crying hence I don't get to enjoy myself. Plus they don't really sleep at the same time so staying at home nursing is what I do most. When my husband does come home he takes them out for a walk (usually) for 1-2 hours and it gives me a break. It is a struggle for me but I know they won't be babies forever, so I cope. Help would be nice but with nursing I don't know what a helper could really do for me other than some chores around the house. You will survive :)

[Pickle]

I am also in the same boat and maybe even a bit worse. My husband works full time (and then some), I'm currently 23 weeks w/boy-girl twins and on bedrest due to a cerclage (placed at 20wks). I also just moved to Southern California from Northern Calif. a couple of months ago and into our new home (we had been in corporate housing) three weeks ago, so I don't know a soul here and can't leave my house to meet anyone.

I'm sure it will be rough, but hopefully I'll get the hang of things quickly?!!

Pickle

[gsmom96]

Pickle,

Where did you move from in N. CA? We're originally from Petaluma/Rohnert Park/Santa Rosa (Sonoma Co.) area.

[Mrs. Q.]

Go to your church. You can get volunteers to help with cleaning, laundry, even holding babies if you are comfortable with that. People will even bring dinners for you. If you don't belong to a church find your local Twins Club. They will beable to help. You can even have people do your shopping for you. Talk to your neighbors you might be pleasently surprised what they will do for you.

My neighbor takes my son to and from school. Another lady goes to the store. A lady in the Twin club cleans and does laundry. Our church brought us meals for 3 months. Go out and buy cheap paper plates and plastic cups and plastic silverware. That cuts down on the dishes you have to do. Don't worry about folding clothes just put them in a basket. Most of them are to little to fold anyways.

I also just learned that if money is tight Good Will can help you out. We get clothes from them free of charge. It's a write off for them. They help those that fall between the cracks.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't worry if the house isn't always clean and dusted. If you and the kids are clean and fed you are doing great. No matter how tired you get always remember there is a light at the end. You will make it.

Good luck!! And keep Smiling!!!

[Pickle]

I'm from San Francisco...my husband and I used to own a home in the East Bay but sold it as we were supposed to move to Seattle (corporate relo) but that fell through, so then we rented a friends condo in downtown SF while we looked for a new home to buy. A few months later the company decided to transfer us to LA and here we are. Kind of crazy when you add to that mix being pg w/twins and being on bedrest!

I'm very familiar with Rhonert Park...I know someone from college who lived in Sebastopol and my grandmother lives in Santa Rosa!

Where is Rowlett?

Pickle