Kind of depressed

[fraidysmom]

I don't know but the last few days I keep worrying how I'll manage a 2 yr old, little newborns and still manage my bus. (as if I do now) DH and I opened a party rental bus. I take the phones and do the office work while DH does the delivery. Since we found out were having twins I feel like I neglect office work and my house sufferes too,
What bothers me most is that I can see DH is kind of irritated abt it, Ofcourse he wouldnt say it but I just see it. I feel bad I used to cook full meals daily and now its like Hmmmm well I don't feel like cooking too much.
I guess DH was spoiled too much the last 1.5 yrs (I used to work far from home and arrive home at eight in the evening, housework and cooking was more his job.)

Now I'm so so worried what will be when the twins will arrive...
I'm sure my mother will help but how much can she?

anyways I rambling too much...

[C.S.L.]

You are not alone in this worry. I will have a one year old by the time the twins arrive and I understand your worry. There are days where i am completely confident that I can do it and then there are other days where I am sick with worry. I sometimes work from home so I can relate to that concern of yours as well. It will be a challenge and at first it may take some adjusting. Newborns sleep a lot and although you will be tired your body will adjust in time. Also you won't have the same kind of physical strain you have on you now while pregnant. I am not saying that the first year will be without difficulty but I think that in time you will find a rhythm. When I get really concerned about the road ahead I watch “Jon and Kate Plus Eight” on TLC. If you don’t get that channel or have not seen the show check the web. I feel like I can take on the world after I watch that show. And always remember you have a support system here and I am sure your mom will LOVE to help. Chin up little trooper…you can do this!

[mommy2twins]

Hey CSL,

I watch that show too! For the same reason. I feel like if they can be semi-normal with 8 kids than I can surely handle my two plus my 4 yr old...I think it's good for perspective...It's kind of soothing really.

I know we are all worried about adjustments..we all have our own lives to accomodate for our little twinkies...I know I had a panic attack the other day when I thought about being up at 3 am with two hungry babies and not knowing where to start!?

Hang in there, fraidysmom, we'll all figure it out together.

[fraidysmom]

Thanks CSL I'll check it out

[3in1year]

My husband just said earlier today, "Is Jon and Kate plus 8 on, I need to learn from them." That is his new "favorate" show. We try not to imagine (to often in a day) what it will be like when the twins are here. I try to focus on enjoying being pregnant and spending time with our son. This will be our first and last pregnancy so I am trying to remember the good days as much as possible. Thinking of life with three under one can be overwhelming.

My husband and I are also self employed and I have been working on removing myself from the business. DH is taking on the business and I will be home with the kids. And for help with the kids we are moving next month less than a mile from my parents. My mom is so excited. I hope she remains excited after the twins have been here awhile :proud: .

fraidysmom sometimes I do think we spoil our DH.

[frgprncss]

When I found out I was pregnant, that was my biggest fear: How can I handle a boy going through his "2's" and a new born. My son is such a good boy so I am completely conviced the next one will be a lot more active.

I also wanted to try to get my son potty trained before the new baby arrived. He has some digestive issues, and the gastro specialist told us not to push it, so we cant. He said we can let him go on the potty if he wants to, but not to overwhelm him. So, that dream is probably out of the picture. 3 in diapers..:(

Then, about 2 1/2 weeks ago, I found out it will not just be my son and a newborn, but two new borns. AHHHHH!!!!!!!! What am I going to do?

I feel your anxiety.

The good news is: Lots of people are in the same boat. If we stay in contact with each other, I am sure there will be lots of advise and empathy going around. Some on this site have children who are only going to be 18 months apart, and others 4 years (and of course in between). I'm looking forward to the support here :)

[jordansmom]

I've been worried too. Actually I plan on being a SAHM for awhile when the babies come, and may pick up something PT a few nights a week for extra $. But, I've been worried about handling it all in general. We will get through it!!! :) Do you have family to help you? That's the good thing for us, we have lots of family nearby who can help if needed. Hang in there!

[fraidysmom]

I watched some clips on TLCs website these kids are just adorable!!!

I know its hard for them but they live under camera and guess both parents don't need to work, oh well not really they still have it hard when they are not under camera I CAN'T IMAGINE SEXTUPLETS yeah I take my twins with happiness!!!

also abt help from family I know I'll get help but the nights worry me....
I feel better now I guess the moods are very flucuating:snicker:

[maggie'smama]

Our daughter is 7 so I don't have that worry, but I am very worried how I will handle it as well. Andrew is taking off the first 3 weeks, one of my best friends is flying up for the 4th week, and then a family friend is flying here for a month to help me during the day. I am petrified of nights and petrified of breastfeeding as it was not successful with our daughter.

One day at a time...

[C.S.L.]

I wish I had that much help. My DH started with a new company in January so he has no paid leave. I don't think we will go broke if he takes a few days off but with Christmas right around the corner I don't want to have any reduction in income, especially with THREE in diapers....urghh! I wasn't worried about how I was going to do it all alone (my DH works nights) until I started reading these posts now I am wondering....am I too optimistic, am I delusional?

[maggie'smama]

Nina,

You know what I did when I was expecting Maggie? I braced myself for the worst and it was not the least bit as bad as I imagined. Everything with her was a bonus because it was much easier than I imagined it would be. I am actually only stressed about the twins for the first 2-3 months, I feel fine about it after that. Maybe I am the delusional one??? Aaaaack.

[C.S.L.]

I think you nailed it. I have had the experience of only good babies (I hate to use the term "good" as if to imply that babies can be bad) so that may be the reason for my less than realistic outlook. I felt like super-woman after Noah, so much so that I told my husband to go and enjoy his vacation, he went on trips and played golf (I am an awesome wife :snicker: ). He had to "sell" the previous year's vacation pay to get paid for the weeks we were evacuated for Katrina. So he worked for over a year straight 6 days a week. Sorry that was so unrelated to the issue at hand. Anyway back to my point. I have days where I think about how all my babies have slept all day and as long as I can sleep 3 hours at a time, I'm good. Does my past good baby fortune mean I have a greater chance of more challenges with the twins? Could my luck run out? Maybe...urghh.

Although that does lead to my big fear for this pregnancy. A hurricane evacuation! I'm always seem to be expecting during the height of the season. Can you imagine big-preggo me, the DH, the 2 kids, and the dog on another 7 hour drive to who knows where for who knows how long? Oh my the thought of it.

Well I think I have gone on long enough about nothing! I will probably get fired for improper computer use today. I have been SOOOOO unproductive! Take care my fellow moms.